Week 7: Fidelity, In Marriage AND Family!


I loved our discussions this week! Im kinda bummed that we have to post by Friday, the Porn Education Conference is this Saturday and Im sure it would have provided more insight about fidelity and those influences that drive us away from a faithful happy marriage.



I really felt as though fidelity was a hard subject to grasp. Its something that I try not to think about but i think thats why it was so important for me to be an active part of the class discussions to get all my questions and "gray areas" covered.

Facebook is a growing trend that surprisingly is tearing more people part than connecting people. I know that a number of my friends married and not married have deleted thier accounts in the past year for a number of different reasons.

1) Reality was being skewed. Poeple wereonly posting the happy things in thier lives, only post picture of all theparties that they went to and the people that they know, "friending" everyone they could to get a higher number of acquaintances. Some cant handle the perception of life that are twisted to compete with others everyday life situation.

2) HUGE time waster, it becomes an addition, not one that you cant live without but more of a habit that can be very misunderstood. The habit of having facebook be the first and last thing you see everyday, seeing disconnected from family if you miss it for a few days and feeling like the only way to connect with others is by "poking" them on facebook or commenting on their status and pictures.

3)lastly, fidelity. Facebook can be an escape from you world, you friends, your spouse, its a way too show interest in others and focus on yourself and your needs. Since virtually everyone has or has had a facebook page, it easy to look up old friends, distant family and old boyfriends or girlfriends. This can be potentially hazardous. Rekindling old flames over the internet is secretive and dis honest and rarely recognizable. "I was just saying hi, i haven't seen her in ages" or "We were just exchanging stories about our new families" even these things can seem harmless but the slightest marriage issue can be weakened further and made large by turning to a past significant other for comfort or conversation.

The last is by far the most detremental to the health of your family.

Fidelity is os important in marriage, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I was able to attend the Pornography conference with my husband on Saturday. We didnt go for any particular reason, besides the fact that we had nothing else to go but as we sat and listened to the speakers, we realized that we were both there for a very real reason, we knew in our hearts just how scary infidelity is and how real porn is as an issue in marriage.

We learned alot and it was very education, we walked out of there very releaved, realizing vthat we were making good, healthy decisions keeping us for away from poor choices in fidelity but the knowledge and awarness of it, is sometimes more important than anything.